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5 Dating Red Flags [4 the Ladies]
Over the past week or so, I’ve read a couple of blogs about dating. I was inspired to write this piece based on what I read. Women sometimes need help with identifying red flags when a guy begins to show interest. Some red flags may not be as evident as others. With that said, I’ve come up with 5 Red Flags that all women should be aware of.
- Bae/Boo/Baby. This is really weird. If a guy calls you bae/boo/baby right off the back, chances are he’s a clinger. You may want to Harlem shake out of the clinch. These are terms of endearment and should only be used when you’ve been dating someone for a significant amount of time.
- “I miss you.” If you’ve only met once or a couple of times, and the guy is already claiming to miss you. Please run in the opposite direction. How can you miss someone you don’t know? It seems to me that the guy is just trying to say something he thinks you may like, and if he’s willing to do that then he probably has ulterior motives.
- All text. No call. If a guy only texts you and never calls that is a problem. You can’t get to know a person through text. Speaking over the phone doesn’t allow for a lapse between responses, and you can also hear his tone when he speaks. If he only texts you, he may have something to hide like a girlfriend. Lol.
- “What’s the freakiest thing you’ve done?” If a guy is asking a lot of questions related to sex. Stop. Drop. And Roll out of there! It’s extremely likely that is all he is concerned with. There’s a time and place for everything. Asking what your favorite position is on the first telephone conversation you have is definitely a no-go!
- Social Media stalking. If he immediately sends you a friend request on Facebook, follows you on Twitter and Instagram, likes all your pictures, retweets all your tweets, and comments on everything you post, he’s crazy. This is a sure sign he’s a stalker. No one likes to be stalked, so ease out of that situation by limiting what he can see.
What are some of your red flags? Please share!
Prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues
As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’ve noticed an increase in bitter and sad status updates. Valentine’s Day can really bring out the bad in people. Although I’m probably preaching to the choir about this, there really is no need to be so down and out on Valentine’s Day. I’ve gone several years without having a Valentine. While I will admit that when I was younger, it did make me sad that I was missing out. However, as an adult without a Valentine, I didn’t allow the Hallmark holiday to get me down. I have been blessed to have a Valentine for the past 3 years, but before then I would think of things to do to keep my spirits high. With that said, I’ve come up with a list of 5 things you can do to prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues.
1. Send a gift or flowers to a friend who doesn’t have a Valentine. Giving is always better than receiving, and if you have a good heart, this will be an easy way to keep you happy on V-Day.
2. Go out with some friends, who don’t have Valentines either, for dinner/drinks. When you’re having a fun, who has time to think about other things that don’t really matter?
3. Steer clear of social media sites if they’re going to make you sad. People will be posting status updates and uploading pictures. So, if you can’t handle it, stay away. I remember one year I read a status update where this girl posed the question, “I wonder what it feels like not having a Valentine?” I’m sure that struck a chord with a lot of her “Facebook friends”. You should know that I don’t believe she’s had a Valentine since then. However, not everyone posting on Valentine’s Day is trying to hurt those who don’t have a Valentine, but again, if someone’s happiness is going to bring you down, don’t login. If it doesn’t bother you, proceed as normal.
4. Do something nice for yourself. I’ve heard of women sending flowers to themselves. You can do that or buy yourself a nice gift. I love getting a pedicure, so that could be something you treat yourself to.
5. Make a mental note that Valentine’s Day is only one day in the year. While you may not have a significant other to shower you with love, and gifts on this particular day, you have other people around you that love you everyday of the year. Gifts and flowers don’t equal love, emotions and actions do.
Cheer up, Champ! 
5 Tips for Valentine’s Day [4 the fellas]
We are all aware that Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday. Not to mention, this holiday is definitely more geared toward women. Regardless of what we might think of the holiday, it’s not going anywhere. It’s here to stay. Now, I know there are a lot of men who are scrambling, trying to get things in order to show their woman that they get it. So, I’ve decided to help those who are hopeless, and don’t get it. Below, I’ve outlined 5 Tips for Valentine’s Day.
If you don’t do anything else, please send/give flowers to your woman. Nothing says “I love you” like a nice bouquet of red roses, and a card from the heart. For those who aren’t in-love just yet, send/give pink roses instead. I personally don’t know a woman who doesn’t like flowers, or reading a card that is sentimental. This will be the setup for whatever else you have planned for your lady.
2. The Gift 
The gift(s) you choose are very important. The gift will show how much thought you put into making sure you’re woman is happy. Fellas, do not, I repeat, do not, get your woman a practical gift. Get her something she wants, not needs. If you were thinking about buying her a coffee maker or a pot set, forget about it; unless she specifically requests something practical. Gift baskets, spa treatments, and jewelry always make great gifts. However, you know what your woman likes. So, get something you know will make her happy. And no, it doesn’t have to be super expensive.
3. Plans 
Do something memorable. That’s what these Hallmark holidays are about. Don’t just settle for the old dinner and a movie Valentine’s Day. There are so many things you two can do; try something new. Depending on your budget, you can go on a helicopter ride, or setup a picnic in the park. Whatever you decide, you should try to top the plans you had last Valentine’s Day.
4. Look the Part 
This should come as a no-brainier. Fellas, when it’s time to go out, make sure you look dapper. I know a lot of women like when their men make a point to look good for them. Whether it be a fresh haircut, or a nice shirt, do come dressed to impress (your woman that is). You already know that your woman is going to look fly, so make sure you do too.
5. Show emotion 
While, gifts, flowers, and cards are all very nice things. Nothing tops off a romantic evening like passion and heartfelt gestures. I’m not saying you should be a total sap, but you should express your feelings through words, and physical gestures, like hugs and kisses. Little compliments go along way. Trust me on this guys!
Follow these 5 Tips, and you will not fail this Valentine’s Day! Who knows; you might even get lucky. 
***NOTE: I know some of you may have just started dating the woman who you’re with. Please don’t think that you should skip out on spoiling your woman on Valentine’s Day. I’m not saying that you have to be as elaborate on your first Valentine’s Day together as you would on your 5th. However, you should do something that is memorable, and shows that you look forward to your future together.
Here’s a couple of links to give you ideas for Valentine’s Day gifts and dates.
http://2013-valentinesday.blogspot.com/search/label/Valentines%20day%20Gift%20for%20her
http://ittybitsofbalance.com/2012/02/07/7-dates-for-valentines-day/
Tyla Times
